Rehearse Your Reality Teen Pregnancy Intervention Working Draft

Using Augusto Boal’s Community Theatre
Rehearse Your
By Amanda Gifford for Right to Care

Introduction and overview of the program aims and outcomes
The intervention will be aimed at adolescent males and females in Grades 8- 9. It is a psycho-educational initiative designed to encourage young people to develop an understanding of the challenges and difficulties involved in caring for an infant.
Facilitator/ Teacher/ Community Counsellor
Desired Outcome – Using theatre to explore the reality of being a teenage
parent in order to bring about awareness of what its like to be a parent when
you are so young. This would hopefully bring awareness around the teenagers
leading to empowerment and possibly different choices bringing down the rate of
teenage pregnancy.
A number of ‘imaginary’ places (workstation) will be set up with a class room area or similarly spacious venue. Set up 7 tables or desks ( workstations) around the outside
of the classroom if you have otherwise just a piece of paper or whatever props you
can find.
General Guidelines
▪ Help the group to decide on their roles and which individuals who are placed at
each workstations. They could be from an external organisation e.g. community
drama or from a higher grade. They would need to be thoroughly briefed on
their role.
▪ We could add further work stations but need to be mindful of time. Chances
are we will have one hour only
▪ Stigmatisation of teen mothers must be emphasised throughout the play.
PREPARATION Requirements/ Props
Dolls or it could be an person playing a child.
Paper Money – newspaper cut up or imaginary money.
Costing for baby requirements and cards to represent each scene
Colour cards for different steps
Briefing notes for each station/individual


Dear __________________(write your name) and draw your face with three words
for how you are feeling today.
Today we are going to be talking about teenage pregnancy prevention and what it
might take to avoid becoming pregnant as a teenager so that you can have more time
to grow up and take care of yourself before you need to grow up and take care of
others. We are going to do something magical. We are going to use our imaginations to
travel to the future and see if its what we really want or if we should make some
plans and choices to get to a different future. We will use theatre to do this. You will
make a play about a teenage mom and dad and the hard realities they face and then
discuss where you are at in relation to that.
(Objectives for the session)
Time: 1 – 3 hours
1. Welcome & Orientation: Introduce yourself & the theme and the workshop.
2. Check-in: Creative and fun warm ups to relax and get to know each other.
3. Emptying Circle: Storytelling, listening skills, opening up:
What do you think the life of a teen parent is like?
4. Theatre ‘Time Travel’:Make a play about being a teen mom and dad.
Exploring The Future if you fall pregnant or make someone pregnant and the
choices that you need to make if you don’t want that.
5. Circle Discussion, Share what your experience was of the play. What did you
feel? Share fears you have, the learnings and talk about what reality you
would prefer and what you need to do to get their. Write a list of steps and
6. Taking It Home ( Reflections)
7. Checking out
8. Plan Ahead
9. Close
10.Feedback Forms
We are going to use a few games and a bit of theatre and interactive exercises to
help us all relax and think together about this situation.
I would like to start with a name game so that we can all get to know each other and
relax a little bit.
You as councilor, teacher and facilitator must work on yourself and make sure you are
open & available to others. Make sure you are prepared for your group and that you
have given the group some thought before you get to it. You must focus on your
morning groups the night before. Make time, tune in! Be flexible and make
adjustments if necessary. This group is a chance for you to share what you are
dealing with. You must be prepared to be the example to your clients. If you want
them to be open, you must learn to be open.
2 minutes: Take a moment to welcome everyone to the circle and tell them what you
are planning to do for this session. This group is really about getting to know eachother,
opening up, and learning to communicate our feelings effectively and become
more aware of the reality of a teen parent.
WARM UP PHASE ( 15 minutes)
We are going to be using games & drama in our session today . One of the reasons we
use games is to get into our bodies and relax. Lets try a few ice breakers.
Facilitators can use other games if these don’t work. The idea is to learn peoples
names and relax and encourage participation.
Game 1: 3 minutes: Sound and Movement: Stand in a circle and one person at a time,
makes a sound & movement to show how they are feeling today.
The group then copies them. Then the next person goes.
Game 2: 3 minutes: Name and movement: In a circle, one person says their name and
does a movement and the group copies. Give each person a turn.
Optional Game 3: 3minutes – Move around the room and when I clap my hands make a
statue or an image of what I say.
1. Facilitator claps hands and says: Make a statue of being a pregnant teenager.
2. Move around the room again and then facilitator claps hands and now make a statue
of what the pregnant teenager feels. This is likely to bring up heavy feelings. So
don’t do too much of it.
3. Shake it out. Let go the feelings.
GAMES help people to relax and open up. It is important to play games with group
members. It helps them to get to know each other too. There are many benefits in
( If the group is only 1 hour long, just spend 5 minutes with this exercise)
Sit down in a circle with the group
(Facilitator)Talk about the AIM of today. We are going to talk about whether you as
a teenager have taken precautions to avoid pregnancy and to talk about what you feel
about the topic.
Points for group to reflect on: ( write on the board)
1. Are you taking steps to avoid becoming pregnant or making someone pregnant?
2. Do you think its important to wait to have a child until you are older?
3. Do you know many teenagers who have fallen pregnant?
4. Are you a teen parent? What is it like?
5. Do you know that sex makes babies? Where is everyone at in their lives around
6. Are you all taking precautions? And if not, why not?
The aim of this exercise is to let people have a chance to begin to think about what is
the reality around these ideas of teenage pregnancy and how they think it applies to
Anyone can speak but no-one must answer or give advice. Only Listen to each other.
1. Once the Listening Circle is open, whoever feels called to share their story or
problem must say his or her name and then speak about what they wrote or
2. When you are finished speaking, you must say “I am finished”
3. This is not a debate. This is a disciplined ‘listening’ circle. Nobody is allowed to
respond to what is said in words while circle is open. Each person must be
prepared to listen to that person’s point of view whether they think it is right
or wrong.
4. If people do not speak, the group must sit in silence to wait for the next
speaker in the circle.
Fireside Storytelling “ Emptying” RULES
– Create a circle
– Create a good listening culture
– Tell the group a short bit of what is the topic to share from your heart
– Share of yourself. Make space for new insight
– Let go of the past by sharing it
– Experience yourself in a new way
– Create hope, trust and love for yourself
– Be aware of other people.
– Don’t take up all the time on your own story
– 1 minutes each.
– Read the poem Please listen
When I ask you to listen to me
And you start giving me advice
You have not done what I have asked
When I ask you to listen to me
And you begin to tell me why
I should feel that way
You are trampling on my feelings
When I ask you to listen to me
And you feel you have to do something
To solve my problem
You have failed me
Strange as it may seem
Listen, All I ask is that you listen
Don’t talk or do
Just Hear me.
Poem written by inmate: participant in Ekhuseni ManAlive group 2005
Then start the Listening Circle
After that move onto the play making.
Now that we have spoken about where you are at, now lets look at what it would be
like if you had a child. We are going to explore the reality of having a child as a
teenager through imagination. You have 20 minutes to make a play about a pregnant
teenager. Please try and incorporate all the scenarios below.
Get the group to make a play as a group about the Life of a Teenage Mom & Dad
through theatre.
The play must include:
A number of work stations will be set up with a class room area or similarly spacious
venue. The stations will represent
1. A retail outlet: Checkers, Shoprite, Pick and Pay etc.
2. An employment agency
3. The school
5. Social Services
6. A crèche
Depending on the size of the group, you can make 2 plays ( there are about 12
roles in one play)
Roles involved
1. Young teen mother
2. Young teen Father
3. Caregivers – grandmother, mother, father, uncle etc.
4. The baby
Other “actors” in the drama
5. Healthcare workers
6. Shop keeper
7. Social worker
8. Employment agency representative
9. School Principal
10. Crèche manager
Instruct the group to choose roles: a boy-girl pair, plus a caregiver and then choose
the other roles too. The boy-girl (parents) dyad will be required to follow a series of
steps together in the play. The caregiver/parent will be given instructions on his/her
At the start of the ‘rehearsal’ the boy and girl ( teen parents) pair will be given a
batch of cards numbered from 1-10. The adolescents will be required to make a play
that begins with card one and follow the steps to completion before they go on to the
next card/scene in the play. The cards will direct them to a work station or provide
instructions regarding discussions that they need to have with either their partner or
caregiver. This must be made into a play.
In the beginning of the play there must be someone who gives the teen pair a list of
items that will be needed for the baby. This list should represent the ideal situation
i.e. items that would be required for optimal health and comfort. For example:
nappies, bottle, formula, baby clothes and so on. Some input around infant health may
be given here! Perhaps the teen is watching a tv program or reading a book that lists
all these things.
The girls will also be given a doll (the baby) or else someone in the group must act as a
child who this must be with them all the time; they cannot leave it with anyone. If its
left alone it will cry.
The group must make a play incorporating all these steps as different scenes in the
play. Read through all of these steps to the group and give each group their cards
which outline the steps.
Then give them 20 minutes to prepare a play.
Then watch the play/s 20 minutes.
The play must include as many of these scenes as possible.
These are the ten cards. They can be printed on 2 pages and given to groups.
Scene 1
“You need the following items for your baby. You do not have any money. Discuss the
situation with your caregiver parent. Ask them if they will lend you money. Offer to
apply for the child support grant (R280.00) and promise you will pay it back.”
In this example the caregiver must be accusatory, angry, and resentful. His or her
goal will be to make the young person feel as miserable as possible. She will however
eventually agree to give R280.00. (Paper money to this value will be given to
caregivers for handing over to the adolescent)
Scene 2
“You take the list of items you need to the Shoprite workstation and present it to
the retailer. How much can you get, what do you have to do without? Do you have any
money left? How long are your supplies going to last. What do you plan to do then?”
Scene 3
“You realise you need more money. Discuss with the father how he can contribute and
how much extra you need”.
(The father is briefed to point out that he is still in school. He has no money. He can’t
be involved. He is trying to finish his schooling.) (Given the emphasis on age disparate
relationships and transactional sex, should there be older men as partners as well?)
Scene 4
“Your baby is unwell. Has a severe nappy rash/is malnourished. You need to take him/
her to the clinic workstation.”
In this engagement the adolescent experiences long queues (all the other girls will be
there) and a harassed and stigmatizing healthcare worker who berates her about the
baby’s health
Scene 5
“You decide to apply for the child support grant and discover that you will need to
take your caregiver with you. Discuss this with your caregiver/parents and visit the
SASA station. Experience long queues and find out that it will take 2 months before
you get your grant” (check this)
Scene 6
“You need a letter from social services. You visit social services workstation to get
this. Also to find out about maintenance.” (I am not sure what the maintenance
situation is with under-age adolescents – if the boy’s family would be liable?)
Scene 7
“You decide to try and get a job. You visit the employment/recruitment agency, and
discover that your qualifications will only allow you to do menial work, but the
employers don’t want a baby around”
Scene 8
“You feel that your best chance of a future is to return to school and see the school
principal. We need to look at recommendations as to return to school after birth of a
baby. I recall there is a specified period? If this is the case then this can be
presented as a further obstacle. Either way there is the question of who will look
after the baby”
Scene 9
Discuss with caregiver who will look after the baby. Caregiver briefed to adopt an
uncompromising attitude. She “never wanted an extra child in the home, now she must
look after it as well!” She insists the baby is put in crèche.
Scene 10
“You visit the crèche in your area to ask about costs. Can you afford this amount?
How will you cope?
MESSAGE: End the play with a message around taking precautions with teen
Show the play to each other.
Then come together for a discussion circle.
Group Activity: Sit in a circle
Let the girls, boys and other players share something about what came up for them in
the play. Allow the group to reflect on what they felt during the play, what they
learnt in their role and what they feel about their own life as a teenager in
relationship to this topic. Are they able to make choices to not fall pregnant? What
steps will they take? What are their fears?
(15 – 20 Min)
6. TAKING IT HOME (Reflections)
(5 min)
Read the Advice on how to make sure you don’t fall pregnant and talk about what
stops you from following that advice.
OPTION 2 MODULE: If there is time, Next time I see you, you will be thinking about
what you would like your life to be like! What is your dream of the future.
1. What are you going to change in your life before we see you again?
2. What fears are you going to face?
3. What steps do you need to take to change your life path?
(5 min) – Go round in a circle and let each person say one thing that they are
taking out of today.
(5 min) – Set up logistics for the next session. Make sure the group knows the date,
time and homework.
(5 min) – Drama Therapy closure activity:
Let all the participants stand in a circle. Everybody gets the opportunity to sing a
song together to close.
10. Evaluation
Your Name:
Facilitators Name: Amanda Gifford
Circle the correct one.
• Did I learn something important today about teenage pregnancy? YES/ NO
• Did I feel more empowered to make choices about my future? YES/ NO
• Did I feel more aware of my own need to take care of myself and not just
others? YES/NO
• Did I see what the reality of parenting is for a teenager? YES/NO
• Did I learn about things I can do to have a different future? YES/NO
• Did I feel lighter at the end? YES/ NO
• Was I able to appreciate myself and others? YES/ NO
• Did I feel relief after talking about my problems? YES/ NO
• Do you think the storytelling listening circle and play making was valuable?
1) How many stars does todays session deserve?
(1 Star = Not good; 5 Stars = Excellent/ extremely good)
☹ 1 Star 2 3 4 5 Star ☺
2) Identify 3 things from today that you learnt.
a. ___________________________________________
b. __________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
3) What are your steps for preventing pregnancy?
4) Rate the facilitator
Any additional comments
If you would like to wait before you have your kids here are some steps for you
to take to prevent pregnancy:
Don’t give in to peer pressure. Many teenagers can feel left out/behind when
their friends start to have boyfriends, or start having sex. Those who have
started to do these things early can often talk about it enough to make others
feel left out. However, if you do stand your ground and wait until you know you
are ready, you will be glad of it. It means you’ll have waited for the right
person and the right time.
▪ Everyone develops at different rates, both physically and mentally, so don’t
feel that you should be racing your peers for things like having sex and getting
▪ Many of your peers will regret their choices in time. Others could even be
lying. Don’t just start having sex because other people are if you aren’t ready
to do it yourself.
▪ Learn to say “No”. This includes saying no to anything you feel uncomfortable
with. Whether it’s refusing to have a boyfriend, have any kind of physical
contact, have sex or have sex without protection, there is nothing wrong
with standing up for yourself. The only 100% safe way to avoid pregnancy is to
not have sex, so you shouldn’t feel stupid for not wanting to go through with
▪ Know what will and won’t result in pregnancy. With sex in general, there are
a lot of myths about what will get you pregnant and what will keep you from
getting pregnant. A lot of these myths are simple misinformation, and some of
them are lies designed to deceive you. Arm yourself with the facts and lower
your chances of pregnancy the safe, smart way.
▪ Unprotected vaginal sex has the highest likelihood of resulting in pregnancy.
Male sperm fertilizes the female egg, resulting in the growth of a fetus.
Unprotected sex also carries a high risk of disease and infection.
▪ Pulling out carries some risk of pregnancy. Studies show that typical use of
withdrawal has a 18% chance of resulting in pregnancy.[1] This is because some
sperm may be released in the male’s pre-seminal fluid, or simply because the
male doesn’t pull out quickly enough.
▪ Unprotected anal sex by itself cannot result in unwanted pregnancy.[2] But
because the anus and the vagina are extremely close to each other, there is a
chance that sperm could accidentally leak into the vagina, causing pregnancy.
Unprotected anal sex carries with it an increased likelihood of STIs, especially
▪ Oral sex cannot result in pregnancy. As long as the penis does not come in
contact with the vagina, there is no possibility that oral sex can lead to
unwanted pregnancy.[3] The likelihood of transmitting some STIs, however, is
increased with oral sex.
▪ Understand the effectiveness of different forms of birth control. All birth
controls are not created equal. Some work better than others, and some are
preferred by different individuals for different reasons. It helps to know a
little about what each form of birth control is, and how effective they are.
▪ Wearing a condom fails about 17% of the time[1], mostly because of improper
usage, and in rare cases, because of manufacturing error. If worn correctly
however, condoms work more effectively than pulling out.
▪ Consider a birth control shot. Depo-Provera only costs twenty dollars a month.
▪ The pill and the patch, which avoid pregnancy by preventing the female’s
ovulation cycle,[4] have about an 8% chance of causing pregnancy with typical
use.[1] With proper usage, however, the pill has a 99% success rate in
preventing unwanted pregnancy.[5]
▪ Intrauterine Devices, or IUDs, fail less than 1% of the time.[1] They fall into
either hormonal IUD, or copper IUD, and require no upkeep. Some IUDs can
stay in place for 10 years.[6]
▪ Use protection. Remember that many types of sexual intercourse can cause
pregnancy. The best thing to do would be to talk about contraception
choices with your partner before having sex, as there are many choices such
as the birth control pill, condoms and spermicide.
▪ If you aren’t comfortable enough with your partner to talk to him or her about
protection, you aren’t ready to have sex with them. Make sure that you are
fully educated about the effectiveness of all of the different types of birth
control before making a decision.
▪ If you are in doubt about your best options, visit your doctor. They aren’t
allowed to tell anyone about what you spoke about, and will give you good
advice. Don’t be embarrassed; they will have dealt with things like this many
times before.
▪ Make sure you know how to put on a condom. If you’re a girl, don’t leave it
up to the guy to put it on, as he may object or try talking you out of it. Play it
cool: If he says, “I don’t want to put a condom on,” just grin and respond with,
“No worries – I’ll put it on for you!” Arm yourself with the knowledge of how to
put one on properly and refuse to take no for an answer. And remember, if the
guy you’re about to have sex with can’t be bothered to protect his and your
health, get out of there and consider yourself lucky for dodging a bullet.
▪ If you are worried about being caught unprepared then the best thing to do
would be to go on the birth-control pill and/or to always have a condom in your
▪ Bear in mind that condoms are the only way to effectively protect yourself
against STIs, or sexually transmitted infections. Do not let yourself be
persuaded into having unprotected sex!
▪ Condoms are often given away for free at places such as schools, colleges and
family planning clinics. In many countries, birth control such as the pill or the
injection are also available for free.

Make sure you know which types of contraception don’t consistently
work.When you’re young it can be confusing to hear about all of the different
types of birth control, and all of the rumors that come with it. Therefore it
can be confusing to work out which ones are actually effective. So here are
some of the methods you should avoid. These things do decrease the possibility
of pregnancy slightly, but are not effective contraceptive techniques on their
▪ Natural family planning. This is when you use your menstrual cycle, or
temperature to help predict when you are ovulating and when you are
least fertile. It requires commitment and is only effective if used
correctly and tracked over time. It’s especially ineffective during your
teenage years since teenage cycles can be erratic and therefore
difficult to predict.
▪ The withdrawal method. This is where the man has to ‘pull out’ before
ejaculation. This is extremely unreliable since pre-ejaculation can leak
out before he actually climaxes, which can then lead to pregnancy. As
well as this is you’d have to trust him to control himself.

▪ . Don’t leave anything to chance. If you have had sex and either you didn’t
use protection or your protection wasn’t effective (e.g. condom split) then don’t
leave it to chance. Get hold of the Plan B contraceptive/morning after pill,
which can prevent a possible pregnancy within 3 days of sexual intercourse
(although the sooner you have it, the more effective it will be).
▪ The morning after pill should not be used as a birth-control method, but
as an emergency aid. It’s not healthy to consistently use.
▪ Emergency contraception causes a short but strong burst of hormonal
changes that prevent ovulation. It will not cause an abortion.[7]

▪ Know what to do if a pregnancy occurs. If you think that there is a chance
that you or your partner might be pregnant, you get a pregnancy test as soon
as possible. These can be done for free at some pharmacists or by your doctor.
It’s important to find out as soon as possible if you are pregnant because it
leaves more options for what to do about it.
▪ It’s important to be aware of options available to you such as getting the
baby adopted, or choosing to keep and raise the baby yourself.
“Life is not about finding yourself, its about creating yourself” George Bernard Shaw
It is important that we take 100% responsibility for our future.
If you want to finish school and go to university What are you going to do to get
there? Imagine a new future for yourself and begin to plan for it.
Write a few words to describe your life.
Then draw, the IMAGE OF THE IDEAL FUTURE. What would you like your future to
look like?
TRANSITION: Then ask yourself how am I going to get to where I want to be?
Draw and write a few words for that.
Here is an example:
Make a very short piece of movement showing where you are at and then moving to
where you want to be, using your body and acting. Make statues of your body of the
now, then the transition, then the future. Explore what you need to do to get to the
future you desire. Discuss.
Write down the qualities of this future. Educated, Rich, Happy, Married, Loved.
I.E: Happiness, Health, Wealth, Genius, Self Worth, Love and Acceptance
Then make a list of affirmations out of those qualities, as if you already are that.
Ie: I am educated.
I am rich.
I am happy.
I am married.
I am loved.
I love and accept myself unconditionally
Rehearse this as if its a script for an actor except this is now your new life. This is
your new script.
Discuss your TRANSITION:
How are you going to get to where you want to be in your ideal future?
Does it include children?
Discussion around what fears you need to face to change your future.
A Vision Board, also known as a Dream Board, is one of the most powerful ways to put
the law of Attraction to work for you.
The Law of Attraction is the secret that we keep forgetting. Our thoughts are the
key to what we have in our life. Our thoughts are magnetic. Our thoughts over time
become our beliefs. Our beliefs guide our actions and our actions have consequences.
These consequences lead to feelings about who we are, they give us our experience.
This experience is what we build our life on. Over time, compounded and repeated
thoughts, become your experience of reality.
A Vision Board is a collage of words and pictures of the goals and dreams you want to
attract in your life.
It is extremely important to use the exact image of what you want to attract,
because whatever you put on your Vision Board will become part of your reality!
To make a traditional Vision Board you will need a big piece of cardboard, scissors,
glue and tons of magazines and newspapers. Go through the magazines & newspapers
and search for images of what you desire in your life and cut them out. Personally, I
found looking on the net and printing them out easier for me. Cut out the images and
words and glue them on your cardboard.
For more power, add affirmations such as “I love driving my new car” or “I love
swimming in my new pool”. This reinforces what you desire. NOTE: Always make an
affirmation in the present tense… as if you already have that which you desire. As I
say all over this site, it’s all about creating the feeling.
Affirmations are an important part of the process.
Hang your cardboard on the wall where you will see it on a regular basis. I hung mine
on the wall directly opposite of my computer, so it is always in front of me while I
work in my home office. You may want to put it up at your at your desk or in your
bedroom or kitchen. Whatever works for you.
Look at it daily, and really FEEL as if you have already achieved the things on your
Vision Board. Be thankful for having those things. Look at your Vision Board as often
as possible with focused intent. It will amaze you as the things on your Vision Board
start showing up in your life. Remember, you do not decide or plan how they will come,
you just visualize already owning the things, and they will simply show up. This is great
A Top 5 List For Making The Law of Attraction Work For You
#1 – KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE – This is certainly one of the simplest methods
that you can use to improve the quality of your life using the Law of Attraction. When
you have a positive outlook on life, you will constantly be in a positive state of
vibration, and you will be attracting positive people and positive events into your life
on a daily basis
If things don’t seem to be going very well for you, it’s doubly important that you
develop a positive attitude as soon as possible. You can learn to see the best in
everything and that slight switch in thinking will begin to change everything in your
life. There is a reason why science proves that optimistic people live longer than
pessimistic people.
#2 – Use A Visualization Method- It is vital to your success that you actually
picture where you want to be in your life. Visualize yourself driving the you desire,
being healthier, financially independent, or whatever you heart desires.
How can you hope to have a fulfilling life if you don’t know where it is that you want
to go?
The best way to do this is to make a dream board or a vision board, as discussed in
the movie The Secret. Don’t worry about how you will get there, only worry about the
destination. The absolute best tool I have found for doing this is here: CLICK HERE
#3 – Daily Affirmations – The two most powerful times to use a daily affirmation is
when you first wake up before you get out of bed, and the last thought you have just
before you go off to sleep. Those are the best times to program your subconscious
mind. Certainly, the more times each day the better, but those two times pack the
most impact.You have to begin putting down in writing what you want, and then keep
saying them to yourself repeatedly. The more often you say them aloud and confirm
your dreams, the likelier it is that they will come true.
#4 Have an Attitude of Gratitude – Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate! Learn to
be thankful for everything around you. Be thankful for your health, your food, the
sunshine, the birds, the grass, the people around you, your family, the two legs that
you walk on everyday. You can be thankful for a good tv show, a movie, a song, a good
conversation. Be thankful that you have a roof over your head and that you don’t have
to sleep in the rain.
You will never have more until you learn to appreciate what you already have.
#5 Like Minded People – Never underestimate the influence that your friends and
co-workers have over you. If you surround yourself with negative people it will be
much harder to be positive. While you may not be able to change your job, at least
not yet, you can certainly seek out people in your community who are practising the
Law of Attraction, or other uplifting spiritual activities.
You may be suprised to find that even in the smallest of towns there are groups of
people who meet weekly just to uplift each other and trade tips and secrets. Now,
with the release of The Secret, there are more groups like these than ever before.
If that’s not an option, join an online community, or frequent websites (like this one)
and leave comments on them and develop a personal relationship with the authors and
other members.
If I wanted to blatantly self promote, I would have made #5 get a personal trainer
and then recommend myself. I do think that everyone needs a personal trainer or
life coach, even the personal trainers themselves do.
Whatever route you decide, be proactive. Don’t wait for things to come to you. You
have to make things happen for you, and not too you.
written by John Derrick
APPENDIX: Preventing Teenage Pregnancy
This is when a person decides not to have sex until they are married.
Some think this is old-fashioned, others think it is morally the best thing to do. Don’t
worry what other’s think – what do you think?
Delaying Sex
Many people feel that they don’t want to wait until marriage before having sex.
At the same time they don’t want to rush into it and make costly mistakes. So they
decide to delay having sex until they are older, more responsible, in a stable
relationship with one partner, have a job, or have become independent of their
Does this sound reasonable to you?
If you choose either abstinence or delaying sex, there are some further steps that
will help to protect you:
▪ Choose you friends carefully. Friends should want what is best for you, and
they should respect your decision not to have sex. Beware of friends who try
and pressure you into having sex.
▪ Beware of situations, like a group of friends drinking or taking drugs that could
lead to unsafe sex.
▪ Beware of partners who claim ‘You must sleep with me to prove you love me.’
▪ Listen and learn from those who have gone through teenage pregnancy. They
know the mistakes and disadvantages, and can help you to avoid making the
same mistakes.
▪ Listen and learn from your parents about their life experiences. If they put
restrictions on you, it is not necessarily because they want to make you suffer.
Usually, it is because they want the best for you, so they do it to help and
protect you.
If you decide that abstinence and delay sex are not the best decisions for you,
and you’d rather not wait before having sex, then you should take time and
effort to learn about the best means of protection:
Contraception simply means using a method (mechanical or chemical) to prevent
pregnancy. There are various contraceptives that work in different ways, but they
are all designed to prevent pregnancy. Even if you wish to practice abstinence of
delay sex, it’s important to learn as much as you can about contraception – knowledge
is power.
▪ Oral Contraception…… “the pill”
▪ Implanon
▪ Injectable contraception…..”the injection”
▪ Male and female condoms
▪ Dual protection
▪ Emergency contraception (should be used within 5 days of unprotected sex, or
condom breakage)- Toll free no: 0800246432
▪ Male and female sterilisation
For more information visit your nearest clinic
Know your HIV status
What can I do if I’m pregnant?
Take someone you trust with you and visit the Clinic to start antenatal care at 8
weeks (2 months) of pregnancy [rather – “miss one period and go to your nearest
clinic and check if you are pregnant or not” and start ANC] Why is this necessary?
Benefits of starting Antenatal care early
▪ Receive knowledge about pregnancy and HIV
▪ Voluntary counseling and HIV testing
▪ Health care worker will assist in developing a plan that is suitable for you and
your baby during antenatal, delivery and postnatal and you have to put this plan
into practice as soon a you can.
▪ Prevention mother to Child Transmission (PMTCT) is available for all HIV
positive pregnant women.
▪ Eat healthy nutritious food, exercise, and get plenty of sleep.
▪ Avoid drugs and alcohol
▪ Prevent further sexually transmitted infections (STI’S, HIV) during Pregnancy
▪ Practice safe sex, use a condom
▪ Infant feeding counselling
If the pregnancy is unwanted : ask at your nearest clinic about your options.